How I held your counsel dear,
missed now in your absence –
the talks we shared,
the lessons learned.
Long years have passed
since we last spoke,
each trial faced reminding me
of the advice you gave,
each time leading to
that never ending question.
~ Which is the right course to take? ~
No words I might provide
would hold the answer you seek.
It is not mine to give,
but yours to divine.
Look not to my past,
but to your present.
There is hope and despair
in all that you face.
Know the difference,
and all will be revealed.
The prompt for MTB: O Apostrophe! from Amaya at dVerse ~ Poets Pub is to use the poetic apostrophe – not as in possession, but in reference to something absent. When poets direct speech to an abstract concept or a person who is not physically present, they’re writing apostrophe poetry. Historically, poets often began their address to the absent party with the interjection “O.”
The is my first attempt at writing a puente. Its form seems perfect for my purposes, as this poem contains a response to the opening stanza.
The puente has three stanzas with the first and third having an equal number of lines and the middle stanza having only one line which acts as a bridge (puente) between the first and third stanza. The first and third stanzas convey a related but different element or feeling, as though they were two adjacent territories. The number of lines in the first and third stanza is the writer’s choice as is the choice of whether to write it in free verse or rhyme.
The center line is delineated by a tilde (~) and has ‘double duty’. It functions as the ending for the last line of the first stanza AND as the beginning for the first line of the third stanza. It shares ownership with these two lines and consequently bridges the first and third stanzas, essentially resulting in two that overlap.
Behind the lens,
seldom in front.
So I search,
frame by frame.
Through weddings, holidays,
And there you are,
your love in every frame.
Other video poetry can be found here.
Omission ~ Remission
What follows is a free flow of thoughts – and not very cheerful, at that – looking back more than fifty years. It’s not something I’ve ever written about, for myself. I thought it was time. I learned a lot from my father, and we had a good relationship, but this is about letting him down, which was a lesson in itself.
Those who are familiar with my writing will know that it’s a long piece, for me. To the right is a distillation, of sorts – again, not very cheerful.
Trying to be involved, but always
self-conscious. That was me, in school.
Except as an athlete, which wasn’t me, at all.
Until I was told I was fast enough
to run track. So, a ninth grader walked
to the high school every afternoon.
When an athlete’s dinner was held
at the junior high, I was clueless.
I wasn’t an athlete. But, yes, I was.
At the last minute, I attended,
only to find out it was a father-son event.
How could I tell my father?
I didn’t have to. Two days later,
my mother said, “Dad was at the bank
for the car loan. The president said
he saw you at the father-son dinner,
and he was sorry Dad couldn’t be there.”
Flash forward three years.
I remember her words like it was yesterday,
“You know, Dad went to your track meet
and you never acknowledged him.”
The one time he left work early
to see me run, and I didn’t see the one face
I’d always wanted to see there.
Too self-conscious, I would stay
away from the bleachers,
except to talk to my girlfriend.
It had to look like I was ignoring him.
Not a word was said afterward, but I knew.
He was disappointed. I would have been.
Did I feel as bad about it as he did?
It sure felt like it. It took me another week
to tell him I never saw him at the meet.
And he never went again.
Remission of Self
Class within class
Wanting to be unseen
Student or jock
A father’s expectations
Wanting to be seen
Guilt by omission
Too little, too late
Linked to Write me some treats! from Lillian, for Open Link Night at dVerse.
Years of absence taking
their toll. Distance traveled
without regret to fulfill
a heart’s wishes becoming regret
at separation from those left behind.
Always missing them,
of course. No real concern,
other times. Phone and video.
Travel. All more than enough.
Most times. Must be the years.
This day is different.
From the Heart
This sorrow knows no loss.
Decades mean nothing
when it wells at the light
in your eyes, your image
a reminder of all we share,
my face more like yours
with each passing year.
My own eyes could be yours,
but moist now with memories,
my smile just as tentative,
until it beams with laughter.
When I smile. But for now
I think of your heart. Would I
give you mine instead, spare you
the pain you knew, only to give you
the pain I feel at this moment?
The prompt for NaPoWriMo.net Day 18 is to write an elegy, with the abstraction of sadness portrayed through physical details. Grief is not something that weighs on my mind every day, but memories such as this are just as hard to write about as they would have been twenty-five years ago.
If you were still here, your days would be numbered.
But that means nothing to the number of days you’ve been gone.
I think of the thousands of times I could have heard your voice,
seen your face. Or the thousands of times you could have heard
my children laugh, seen them smile, seen the sun rise one more time.
Not all has been darkness since you left us, but the light
you would have brought is unforgiving in its absence, your absence.
Eclipsed, you had robbed from you the one true sunset you deserved.
It’s been 25 years since my father died, way too early at 60.
The challenge for Day Four of NaPoWrMo 2019 is to write a poem of sadness, achieved through simplicity, with the suggestion of a sonnet for compactness. Mine is short, though not necessarily simple, and definitely not a sonnet.
Piece-by-piece, laid out
carefully, just as you explained.
Float, gaskets, fittings. New parts arrayed
to the left of the damaged carburetor.
Screws turned, separation, methodical
disassembly – after all, part of
the recovery process – parts placed
to the right to be cleaned, reassembled.
You coming by every few minutes,
to check my progress, give a reminder,
less hands-on than when we replaced
a transmission the year before.
Glancing beneath the back edge
of the upraised hood, starting the engine
and seeing your smile as you pull the throttle
and those barrels come to life.
Life, and those lessons. We do our best
to build. Sometimes, we need to rebuild.
No more reminders, but I still remember
those lessons and feel your presence.
Twenty-five years ago from today, we lost my father.
I prefer to focus on his birthday, but this came to me last night, a silver lining, of sorts.
Image source: hotrod.com
working with honor
lesson learned from a father
This senryū is my response to
Frank Tassone’s #Haikai Challenge #49: Labor Day.
never really gone
there is absence
and there is not
your face mirrored in a grandchild
the memories of you gathered by my sons,
images they hold for truth, twenty-five years later,
their eyes seeing things I took for granted
my thoughts when I hold your tools,
when I use them
never really gone,
you are here
Father’s Day 2018
first autumn morning
the mirror I stare into
shows my father’s face
© Murakami Kijo
new light shines on old riddles
reflecting on life’s lessons
Carpe Diem Tan Renga Challenge Month 2017 #6 first autumn morning (Murakami Kijo)